Patient discussion about acceptance

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Q. Mother in law not accepting the diagnosis.

Our 3 years old son was diagnosed with autism some time ago, and although it’s not easy, our family and friends support and help us a lot, except my mother in-law (that lives close to us). She refuse to accept the fact that our son has autism, and keeps telling we are just hysteric and with little education our child will grow up just fine. What can we do? Were we wrong when we decided to tell everyone?
A1I believe that it is a matter of time until your mother in-law realizes the full extent of your son's condition. Perhaps now she cannot accept it, and would rather think of him as a normal healthy child, and with time she will grow to understand his needs and capabilities. The most important thing for you to do is keep her involved in his life, so that she will give him all the love he can get from his grandmother, regardless of his autism. It seems to me you are a strong family with great people around you, that will help you with anything you need, so work on what is best for your son, and that is loving him. Don't spend too much time worrying about what others know or believe.
A2 I had a similar case, only with my own father who wasn’t willing to accept the fact that his first grandson has a problem.
What we did was to let him speak to our pediatrician that explained him the situation and it’s meaning. It didn’t change his attitude completely, , but it did help him to be more understanding about it.
Just remember they act this way only because they love you and your son – it’s not on purpose
A3First of all, it’s good to hear that you have such good people around you that help so much. Regarding your mother in-law, you don’t have to drag her into this – if she refuses to accept it, keep her out of this issue, and try to show her how your son progress. As time will pass, she’ll get it little by little until she’ll finally accept it.

Q. i am allergic to milk products , what are the accepted treatments for this kind of allergy?

A1i too am allergic to milk,and i love milk,so i just cut down my intake of milk,try that,don"t drink as much.
A2you should check out if you are "allergic" or "lactose intolerant". two different things, and two different treatments. i bet you are lactose intolerant. and here is some info about that:

Q. are there are acceptable drugs by the health industry for depression which are not addictive but yet effective

AAs toward other drugs, patients may develop addiction to the mood-improving actions of the medications, so potentially every medication that works has the potential to induce addiction (even medications to other non-psychiatric condition that cause good feeling may do that).

However, the current medications used to treat depression are not considered dangerous in this matter.

You may read more here (, and if you have any questions regarding this subject you may consult a doctor (e.g. a psychiatrist)

Q. When should I stop?

As part of my efforts to lose weight, I worked a lot about accepting myself – that less-than-perfect body is also an acceptable option. And now, after losing weight but not reaching my ideal weight, I have these doubts- Should I continue my efforts to lose weight, although I feel good about my self? What do you think?
A1I truly believe that if you are happy with your weight loss, even though you say you have not reached your ideal weight or goal, be proud of who you are and what you have acomplished. There is no such thing as the perfect body image, at least not as far as i'm concerned. I feel that you have to love yourself for what's on the inside because the outside always changes (i.e. age, loss of hair, teeth, etc...) I had gastric bypass in 2005 and lost 90 lbs. I still have not reached my goal of 125-127 lbs. where I used to be 10 years ago, but I love "who" I am today. I am 140 lbs. of fantastic and some days I look at me and feel different but feel blessed that I am healthy and alive...Hope this helps
A2As said earlier, trying to lose weight means *changing our life style*, so in some way we’ll never stop our efforts - but eventually our efforts may become our new natural lifestyle. Good luck!
A3If ceasing your efforts mean you’ll no longer control what you eat, it means that you’ll probably not stay in this weight but rather gain weight. Maybe you should let yourself more loosely from time to time, but still remain under control.
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