Patient discussion about abuse

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Q. what is a sentimental abuse? in what ways does it show? i think my boyfriend is abusing me and playing with

my emotions , does it call "Sentimental Abuse" , who do i need to see to get over it ?
A1In any situation any kind of abuse is wrong... If he is playing with your emotions sometimes it is good to see a councellor or someone you can talk to to get your feelings out in the open, sometimes it works sometimes it don't.... I just got out of an abusive relationship although it was not my emotions he was playing with it still helped to seek out someone that will listen maybe give suggestions on how you can either get out or fix the problem.
A2Me personally, I dont think that it takes two for abuse. Somepeople are just mean and you dont have to do anything to them for them to abuse you. If you feel that you are in an abusive relationship then you need to figure out a way to get out and quickly before things get worse. You do not have to take abuse from anyone. If you do decide to get out of the relationship dont fall back in so easily....if he/she says they didn't mean it or that they will change, make them prove it to you before you get back in a relationship with you. You don't have to be scared, there are plenty of people out there willing to help. I'm no counselor but I'm here if you need anything. Here are a few sites on abuse:
Hope this helps and that your situation gets better.
A3for any abuse you need two parties. it doesn't matter if he "abuses" you if you do not cooperate with him. i think that the whole definition of "sentimental abuse" is crap. everyday people hurt other people feelings. it's not a good thing to do but shouldn't be called an "abuse".
remember - you need two for Tango.

Q. What is the difference between alcoholism, alcohol abuse and alcohol dependent?

AAlcoholism is the high carve for drinking without caring for negative results it will have on physical, mental, emotional and social life. A binge drinker who continues to drink even though the problem has started in his normal life will lead to alcohol abuse and he may start the journey for alcoholism. In alcohol dependence the drinker steps up from the alcohol abuse and the crave increases in spite of the biggest problem on head. We can say that alcohol dependence is alcoholism.

Q. My son who is an alcohol abuse is undergoing treatment?

My son who is an alcohol abuse is undergoing treatment. He stops his medicines in the middle of the treatment and restart taking alcohol. Doctor had warned to stop consuming alcohol in excess. With heavy drink he comes late at night and it frightens me. He drinks alcohol very badly and behaves violent also. He says he cannot stop. I am getting worried and was finding some information about the harm effects the excess drinking can bring to him?
AA) He must stop or reduce alcohol now. Allow him to drink in house so that he can be safe from some other dangerous situations which can mess his life. Once in home you can deal him well. At least you can make him to have his medicines. The adverse effects of alcohol consumption are liver damage, anemia, nerve damage, and pancreatitis. These can ruin his life.

Q. I did hate my father but would like to help him now. I have seen him drinking and abusing me and my mother.

Hello, I did hate my father but would like to help him now. I have seen him drinking and abusing me and my mother (his wife) almost every day and we have been living with this for quite long. My mother is disabled and cannot go out for job. My father was the only working member of the family and we had to depend on him always. He was nice for some time and again would restore back to alcohol. However he always took care of our family and providing us the required money and we did not had to go anywhere. I did complete my schooling (My father money) and now I have recently joined for a job. It seems that my father had great dreams in his childhood and I did come to know after reading his diary but as his brother cheated him and he was forced to take this path. His love life was not successful and he lost his job on his fallout with manager which he has written in detail and it seems that he did undergo great pain during that period. He lost his hope on life and took a deadly path. When I was thinking about him, I found that in spite of being addicted alcoholism he was always taking care of us and providing us the basic requirement. Maybe his past has made him what he is today and I would like to restore some confidence in him. After all he is my father and I have started taking efforts. I did take him to few doctors and they did check him. Of late he is mental illness also but the hospitals aren't giving us answers. Where can I go to get him psychiatric help?
A1hello,i went throught the same thing,in my life..with my father...he was a very good man,we had everything we wanted..but.. he was very abusive to me and my mother for a long time,my mother was not working so she had to stay in the relationship....the hardest part for me was living through,him allways downing me,and making me feel bad about my self..when my father came home at night..i would go hid because i knew he was going to yell at me for life was a living hell for a long married at 22,to get away from the father died before i could connect with him as a son because of his addiction,i really did not no my father on a emotional level-------mrfoot56
A2Hi, thanks. Your story is touching and your perception of seeing things is great. Well I think the earth would be wonderful if everyone start thinking like the way you do. Coming to the point, I think you can take him to the ER, and tell them you need a psych eval. The doctor will put a med hold on him; it's called a 10-13 in GA. Once this is issued he has no choice. It is a legal document, and if he leaves without treatment, they will send the police to pick him up. They will send a counselor, they will speak with you, and your father, and determine if he needs inpatient, or outpatient, and what place to send him. I work in the ER, I see this everyday. Please let me know if you need any help. I love my father also… He was sweet.

Q. Is it normal to have abused alcohal. go threw 3 years of a.a. and come out of it a controled drinker?

ANo. Alcoholism is a lifetime disease. If you go through rehab and AA you can come out clean but you can never drink any alcohol ever again.

Q. Can bipolar disorder be accompanied by alcoholism or drug abuse?

I was wondering if it is common for bipolar individual's to use alcohol or drugs to "buffer" mood swings?
A1Bipolar is a brain illness. And there is a tendency to get addicted when having Bipolar disorder. It’s a hard struggle, and they usually loose…
A2"It is generally believed that 30% to 60% of those with bipolar disorder (manic depression) also struggle with alcoholism or substance abuse perhaps in an attempt to self-medicate."
A3It is common for bipolar people to used drugs and/or alcohol. It is called self medicating. One of the first questions you are asked when having your first consoltation at a mood disorder clinic or psychiatry evaluation is if you are using drugs or alcohol. People with mental illness often find that the effects of drugs or alcohol give them a mental break (if you will) from the effects of their illness. It is important for that person to seek help and begin proper medications to help control the illness and for that person to be honest with their psychiatrist or theropist about their drug and alcohol use.

Q. Can anybody tell me the point where I should be worried that I've become an alcoholoic?

What is the definition of an alcoholist?
A1You truly have a great site here. Its got a lot of potential and can surely help many.
A2Thank you for your support and kind words Charles.
A3People who live with or around an alcoholic can see more clarly than the alcoholic in denial.

There is a picture on the wall of a recovery center I spent lots of hours in visiting and helping others like me, which show a picture of a river in Egypt next to some pyramids. The caption reads "Denial is not a river in Eqypt. "

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