Below are some tips for refocusing your perfectionist
tendencies toward better avenues:
tend to neglect asking for help from others and miss out on the benefits a different perspective can offer."
What's more, perfectionists
tend to compare themselves to others and feel like they fall short.
Ledley said when she first meets a perfectionist
child, she typically sees a kid who looks perfect, has impeccable manners, and is mature beyond their years.
Practise replacing perfectionist
or critical thoughts with realistic statements.
To investigate the potential of normal or adaptive perfectionism, Slaney and Ashby (1996) interviewed a criterion group of 37 perfectionists
. They chose subjects who either considered themselves to be perfectionists
or were considered to be so by others who knew them well.
Knowing where perfectionism comes from (as well as what specific socialization experiences might contribute to perfectionistic tendencies) will make it easier to design intervention strategies that encourage adaptive perfectionism in individuals and discourage (or at least help perfectionists
manage) the more maladaptive aspects of perfectionism.
Don't put a perfectionist
in a role that is overly complex or requires managing people.
Three qualitatively different groups of perfectionists
(i.e., "maladaptive," "adaptive," and "non-perfectionist") have consistently emerged in this line of research, each of which has shown qualitatively distinct normative profiles.
ordinary life the perfectionists
are venerable and dreaded entities at the margins of
This is similar to the view of maladaptive perfectionists
in that they rarely perceive that they have attained the goal, regardless of the caliber of their performance.
Therefore, to address adequately the simple question of whether there are more perfectionists
in the gifted population of a specific age range, more rigorous research studies need to be conducted with reliable and valid perfectionism measures that tap both the positive and negative aspects of perfectionism.