retarder

retarder,

n a chemical added to a substance to slow a chemical reaction, prolong the set of the material, and provide more working time.

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Patient discussion about retarder.

Q. This makes me to think how babies come out retarded and what the causes of retardation in babies are. My heart some time trembles when I see some parents dedicating their whole life for their retarded babies whom they gave birth after few years of their marriage. This makes me to think how babies come out retarded and what the causes of retardation in babies are. Is it not in our hands?

A. Hi there,

My opinion is that we are all perfect - just the way we are regardless of whether we are well or ill, beautiful or ugly, nice or mean. There is a perfect balance in the Universe – we cannot have positive without the negative – to think otherwise is to be ignorant. There is no a curse without a blessing nor a blessing without a curse. We are all part of the divine matrix – a matrix of love (as Dr Demartini likes to call it). The reason we don’t see any of this is only because we don’t look.

Please think about your question – whatever answer I could give – it would never satisfy you and it would not change what is.

My personal view is that we don't choose our babies – our babies choose us. There is a reason why 'your baby' wanted you to be her/his parent. Your baby may have ‘felt’ that you would be the perfect parents to shower them with love, affection and patience – everything that a child with autisms requires. Or perhaps, it is something that you (your so