Patient discussion about emotional

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Q. Emotions

My 68 years-old husband underwent his surgery for lung cancer several moths ago and after that received chemo. Thankfully, it seems that he’s on the right track, but then lately he’s being very emotional. He says he’s always been this way since the diagnosis, but he just hid it. We try to talk about it, but it seems we just don’t communicate. Any advice?
A1Hi,
Those above me already phrased very well what I wanted to write, so I’ll add a link to a site I found about this subject:
http://www.cancer.org/docroot/MBC/MBC_4x_Anxiety.asp?sitearea=MBC

Take care!
A2Sorry to hear about your husband’s cancer, and I can understand how it may render him emotional in many ways. Have you considered taking anti-depressants? It may help him to cope with his disease.
A3Hi,

It’s natural that his emotions as patient, just as yours as a care-giver, will be varied and even extreme. Things like cancer makes us change our view about life and ourselves, so it’s understandable. Have you tried to talk to his doctor about it? They probably meet other patients in this situation and may help.

Q. What role does emotion have in the life of someone with autism?

I just find the whole disorder of autism hard to understand because I'm a really emotional person. I'm especially interested in how people with mild autism or Asperger's can function fine but then when it comes to feeling empathy they have such trouble. I guess my question is how such people experience emotion--are these people actually unable to care about others? My intention is not to sound ignorant, I'm genuinely curious.
A1I have asperger's and most everything for me is logically analyzed and I have a difficulty knowing what emotion goes with certain situations and how the emotion manifests itself within me.
I care about others, I just cannot always put myself in their shoes and feel what they are feeling.
A2I have Asperger's syndrome. People with autism spectrum disorders do have feelings and emotions. Many of us lack empathy, but that doesn't mean we don't care about others. For example when someone is really excited about something nice in their life, we may not get excited too. It's not that we don't care, it's just that we don't experience other people's emotions with them. I can be happy for them while not really understanding or feeling the excitement involved. We don't know exactly what the other person feels like and therefore we can hardly share in feeling those emotions with them. We also don't always express our emotions or we don't do it the same way as others.
A3here is a site i run into a while ago. it has some links to videos about people with Asperger syndrome, can give you an idea maybe...

Q. discussing my father situation with the doctor

My 82 years old dad has dementia, and currently lives with us at my home. For the last few weeks he's very nervous and sometimes yells and screams at us. I want to take him to the doctor and see if he can get any help, but I'm afraid that if I'll try to speak with doctor about this subject in front of my dad he'll take offense. What can I do? Thank you very much!
A1The answer above is a good suggestion. I would add to the letter a small warning about the way your father would react to a discussion of his behaviour so the doctor would know to discuss it carefully.
A2I would pass the doctor a note which explains the situation, or talk to hi, on the phone beforehand. Maybe you should also add a small warning about the way your father would react to a discussion of his behaviour so the doctor would know to discuss it carefully.

Q. How severe should the stress be during pregnancy to affect the baby?

Lots of women are stressed out, depressed, emotional or simply just moody during pregnancy. But how severe is the stress to actually affect the baby?
A1Pregnancy is always emotional…your hormones can drive you crazy. But stress is something else. here is an article from Dr. Spock’s web page about stress while pregnant:
http://www.drspock.com/article/0,1510,6172,00.html
A2When people ask this question I always like to refer to the babies born to mothers who lost their husbands in the tragedy of 9/11 in 2001. Can you imagine how stressed and depressed these pregnant women must have been after losing their husbands in such a horrible tragedy, especially knowing their children would never meet their fathers? Their babies were just fine, they had a special on TV last year at this time with some of the mother's and their children who were effected by the tragedy. As long as you take care of your self physically, your baby should be fine.

Q. Eating too much during stressful time

My sister in-law is currently at home at a terminal state, so now I have to look after my brother’s family, and I cook for us. Although I make good and satiating meals, I still find my self eating sweets every evening, probably to distract myself from the sight of my dying friend. I know it sounds inappropriate to think about it when my sister in-law is dying, but I’m afraid I’ll gain weight (I’m have couple of extra pounds already). What should I do?
A1Sometimes our hunger isn’t physical but emotional- we eat to avoid dealing with our feelings. It’s natural and many people act this way. Maybe you can talk to someone about your feelings, and when you’ll feel better about them, you’ll feel less urge to run away by eating.
A2First of all, my sincere consolations. It’s totally OK to think about yourself, even in a time like this. You don’t need to feel guilty for these feelings, and maybe these guilt feelings are what makes you eat more. You’re a wonderful person- not a cynical egoist. Don’t be harsh on yourself too much.
Take care!
A3It sounds like there's a bit more than just eating more lately because you are cooking and at home more. Maybe this stressful event in your family and the difficult emotional state you must be in, is causing you to be in a more depressed or stressed mood, and eating sweets is your escape. I think you should first realize that, and next you can decide you're stoping with the compensation eating habbit. Try and find something else to do to distract you, like watching T.V or listening to music, taking a walk outside, etc. If you feel hungry eat proper meals and small healthy snacks in between. Eat what you cook with everyone else during meal time and not while you're cooking.. Hope you manage to handle it all at once.

Q. I suspect that I may have Bipolar. I have not consulted with anyone so far.

I am confused. I am suffering from emotional stress for quite some time and I realized that things are going out of my control. I suspect that I may have Bipolar. I have not consulted with anyone so far but I would like to know am I a bipolar?
A1Dagmar is right it will do you no good to self diagnose yourself. Go to your doctor and talk to the doctor about how you have been feeling, your doctor should test you for a proper diagnosis. If you do indeed have bipolar disorder then you can begin treatments that will teach you to manage the illness. But go see a doctor, preferably ask for a referral to a psychaitrist.
A2Look, diagnosing a bipolar (as well as other diseases, psychiatric as well as other types) requires a bit more than two sentences. Emotional stress isn't bipolar- but then, I don't know how you've acted and all the other things one must assess before diagnosing a bipolar disorder.

You can try to read more here (www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/bipolardisorder.html) and then have a better idea of this disorder, and in any case, if you think things aren't right, then consulting a doctor (e.g. a psychiatrist) may be wise.
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