Patient discussion about commit

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Q. Can I have her committed to rehab?

Hello. I really need some help. My girl friend is 44, I’m 56 yrs old. She's stubborn and will not seek the help she needs. It's driving me crazy and I am unable to help her. Alcoholism is terrible. We are paying the mortgage on a beautiful home together, and I just can't leave her. I've got my own psychological problems that I am dealing with--anxiety, temper and depression. Can I have her committed to rehab?
A1I need to correct my response since this is about a girl friend, not a legal spouse, unless she is a common law wife, since you may be, depending on your state. You may have to be a legal guardian or next of kin. It depends on the laws in your state.

If the person has become a hazard to themselves or to others, especially children, there may be legal recourse with a judge no matter what your relationship.

Others are pointing out that unless a person is wanting help, there is a low success rate for recovery. Someone forced to go to rehab, may go right back to the old ways within the same hour they get out of rehab. Some people end in rehab multiple times this way.

Its not a pretty picture of life. Its not something you can read much about anywhere. But its real. Ask a rehab tech and they could probably tell you stories that will "fold your ears back".

You may have a county mental health agency with a rehab center, instead of the state hospital. Check your phone bo
A2I have heard from doctors that other people can suggest rehab, not really sure if you can get her committed. If she sees a counselor see if you can join her and ask the counselor.
Hope this helps. mellou :^)
A3Yes, you can get a judge to order it. Your local county circuit court judge is the one to contact. You probably have to have a good documented case, plus some good witnesses. These judges usually have been lawyers and have been "around the block" a few times with the cases they have handled. Its got to be for the health and well being of the person. The state you are in probably has a facility with many others in it just like the person you describe. When all else fails, this may be the only option you have. If you could talk to a drug/alcohol rehab counselor, they can give you more help and possibly keep your spouse out of the state institution. Many people committed to the state hospital here in my state usually have a problem with drugs or alcohol or both and the hospital has a section for that.

The way I learned about all this is from visiting hundreds of people in a drug/alcohol rehab center on visiting day for many many years. This was my own twelfth step work.

Q. How do I know if someone’s planning to commit suicide?

A guy I know is acting weird lately…saying some scary stuff about dying. How can I know he is not joking? And how can I stop him?
A1it shouldn't be your goal to stop him or prevent him as you say. you can't be with this individual 24/7.. if you are there for him and give him your ear to listen it will go much farther to prevent him than nething else you could do. as we learn in the psych field a very simple, effective way to discern suicidal intent is to talk w/ them and in the course of the conversation look right at them and say "it sounds like you're thinking about killing yourself". don't hesitate to call a healthcare professional to explain the situation. you don't have to give your name or his name for them to give u advice
A2Irus posted a very good list of resources and numbers to call concerning crises and possible suicide:

http://www.imedix.com/health_community/q101681_a_crisis_feel_depressed

or just search her for the word suicide
A3Here is a website that can really help you in that!! It helped many people and saved lifes:
http://www.stopasuicide.org/

Q. My best friend is always seemed to be depressed. Once he tried to commit suicide. I like to help him.Can u plz

Hi I am Mickey, student at the Capella University. My best friend is always seemed to be depressed. Once he tried to commit suicide. His parents are not supporting him; they are not considering him in any way. I usually spend more time with him. I like to help him. When he is in severe depression I don’t know what to do to him, and how to treat him?
A1Hi Mickey, I feel sorry for your friend and I really appreciate your care for him. Among young people, depression is common. Talk to his parents or another relative who he respects and trusts. Try to give him self confidence and self esteem. Involve him in some other activity for example, reading books, watching movies etc. It will help him to come out from depression. If not, consult a local physician. There are so many meds which will cure his problem.
A2is the doctor of your friend open-minded and/or a cool doctor? tell him about iMedix. we don't know everything and the same is for his doctor, but together we can exchange very fast our experiences and our know-how to be benefic for others still seeking this site since years. i am very happy to be here in charge by iMedix after only one week. It seems that I can help people. I had already urgency cases with phone-calls to USA, I am also in touch with groups coaching each other since today from Switzerland where I live. So pinch me and let me know. Read me, I will teach you if you allow me to do so as good as I can. I am still with questions seeking the how and why of many topics around us. Feed your own common sense and teach your friend with our answers. If your friend has no good feeling about his doctor, explain him how to handle it by reading this :
http://www.imedix.com/health_community/q103072_How_can_I_know_that_my_doctor_is_good
learn the way we can see the world around us!
A3hi Mickey, i am here the topic-manager for "depression" in charge by iMedix. i have this diagnosed correctly only since 16 years ago by my first psychiatrist but i was already 12 years before depressive. i give you story to read:
http://www.pulsarsystems.ch/lixurion999-EN.pdf
stay in touch with your friend with his favourite hobbies. keep him doing something he loves to change his thoughts. sometimes doctors know only little about what we have, because they never had it theirselves. don't be scared about depression but about suicide-intentions. come online and talk to me if you should still be scared and visit a good psychiatrist with him. i had to search 13 years, before i finally found one, after three times being by force in an asylum, because i could not handle anymore all accumulated traumata of my life. does he take actually medication? does he live alone? does he have a pet, a girl-friend? keep cool and i thank you for your courage to stay with us. try to bring him r

Q. how do i not think about my first dad Robert so much i'm just wondering/ he committed suicide Ashley shipp

what causes suicide i'm just wondering ashley shipp
A1Thank you for the support DrMDK.
A2First It was not your fault
Second The fact you wonder means - you care
Third Try help any friend when they are depressed
You are special to care.
DrMDK
A3I suppose he must have been very unwell.

Q. I have a doubt, where people suffered by bipolar have thinking about suicide.

My uncle was suffered from bipolar disorder. Before 3 months he committed suicide. I have a doubt, where people suffered by bipolar have thinking about suicide.
A1Thank you for sharing with us Devontae,

Again I am sorry for your loss. Chances are that your uncle suffered with bipolar disorder for a lot longer than 3 months. Unfortunately some people wait until it is too late to seek help. It takes so much for a person to admit they have a problem and activly seek the help they need, I have the utmost respect for those who have been able to seek the help and been able to help themselves and their family. So many fall through the cracks though, being misdiagnosed or waiting until they are so far into depression or mania that they need it to end right away. Theropy and medications take time to work, there is a process involved in finding the right combination of meds and theropy, unfortunately for some that process takes too long.
I dont know what your uncle was experiencing before his passing, I hope that he is now pain free. I am praying for you and your family at this time, as well as your uncle I pray that he is now in peace.
A2I am sorry for your loss, Devontae. Those of us who have Bipolar Disorder can be suicidal in either the manic or depressive phase. In the manic phase, suicide can sometimes be accidental. Many of people who are in a Manic have symptoms of psychosis. That can be anything from the extreme feelings of elation to paranoia or hallucinations. Some have committed suicide by jumping off a bridge; believing they can fly, for instance. In the depressive phase, there is exhaustion, intense guilt as to how this illness affects their loved ones, and the feeling/delusion that everybody would be better off without them if they were dead. This illness is no different than an illness like Cancer. Many of us can be medicated, learn the right tools to manage the illness, and go into "remission." And unfortunately some hang on the best they can, but do not survive.
All the best to you, sweetie.
A3it's very common suicidal thoughts in Bipolar disorder. it's part of the depression episode, a very dangerous part. if you think someone has suicidal thoughts- ask him about him. ask him directly and tell him that you are worried about him and don't want him to do something stupid. it can be the difference between life and death.

Q. My friend is imprisoned for a planned murder.

My friend is imprisoned for a planned murder. Family and friend assumes that he is bipolar, but as yet he is not been diagnosed. He has answered yes to all the questions in a questionnaire to indicate bipolar. Bipolar do commit murder often and would he have been manic when he did it?
A1It is not uncommon for someone suffering with bipolar to commit crimes, mostly this happens in a manic state. His family can talk to his lawyer about getting him a pychological evaluation, if he is dagnosed bipolar they can begin to treat him. He will still be responsible for his actions but they can work with him to make him better. Good luck
A2Thank you Rohan for your precious contribution.

Your topic-manager
A3This mania causes irritability, impulsivity, and mostly impaired judgement; it is not hard to understand how people in a manic state may commit criminal acts.
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